Peter and I went skiing for the day. It was beautiful and sunny. Just getting to and from the mountain was fun for Peter because he loves long car rides. We made up songs to sing on the chair lift together. He did a great job skiing, following me carefully as we did big long turns, and trying to get his feet into parallel as we traversed the slope.
Unfortunately, at the end we had a couple of mishaps. When trying to untie my poles (I had threaded the handle loops together to make a CASS hold for Peter), I accidentally hit his fingers with the end of one pole. Peter was a good sport, just rubbing his hand, without a sound. I apologized profusely, and he said “I forgive you” with a repeat-after-me prompt. But at the very end, when Peter was seated in the car, I had just gotten his ski boots off when he reached over and slammed the car door shut. The only problem was that I was still between him and the door, leaning over to pick up his boots. Bam! I felt the car door slam against my head, and screamed in fright. Peter said he was sorry, and I had him do several do-overs, ie practices, on how to look around carefully for people before you close the car door, and then told him I forgave him too.
So at the end of the day, we made a tally.
|Long car ride. ☺☺☺|
|Singing on the chair lift. ☺|
|Great job skiing! ☺☺☺☺|
|Mama hit Peter’s fingers with the ski pole. 😦||Peter forgave Mama. ☺|
|Peter hit Mama’s head with the car door. 😦 😦||Mama forgave Peter. ☺☺|
|3 sad faces||11 happy faces|
What was more, happy or sad faces? The forgiving made up completely for the accidents, and there was much more good than bad, so we decided we had had a very good time on our ski trip!
We reviewed the day with Papa, using the chart as a memory prompt.
Sometimes our kids can use some help with developing perspective when things don’t go completely right on a given day. Counting up happy and sad faces helps by providing a concrete visual. Reflecting on imperfectly good days are a great opportunity to develop perspective on life.